Welcome to the first tips of the month post! Each month Thrive with Sue will post some great tips that will help you to feel more positive and in control of your life. The first is on self-esteem. This is something that is not fixed and can easily be changed in a matter of weeks. Boosting your self-esteem will have a significant positive impact on your life.
Process your positives each day. Write a list of what you have achieved. Update this a few times a day on paper, your phone or computer. For each item think about why this was a good thing, what made this a positive experience and what would you say to others who had achieved this. Examples include: walking the dog, doing some housework, going for a walk, going to the gym, contacting a friend you haven’t spoken to for a while, getting a new client or business contact, getting something done that you have been avoiding.
As you can see this list doesn’t have to include running a marathon, passing a test, walking 10 miles! Most people just think about all the things they need to do rather than what they have actually achieved. We often dismiss all our achievements thinking that’s something I should do anyway. It’s important we are able to boost our own self-esteem, rather than it being reliant on what others say to us. This exercise really helps.
Write down what kind of day you want. Don’t wait until mid-afternoon to realise your day is not going to plan. Decide first thing in the morning or even the night before. Visualise and imagine what you want to happen. Take control.
Each day think about what you are grateful for. This will help put things in perspective and make you think about what you have, rather than want you want.
Savour each moment rather than thinking about the past or what comes next, otherwise you end up missing out on the here and now.